Accepting the Challenge: The 90-Day Love Diet

Looking at the challenge of the “90 Day Love Diet” I ask myself a bunch of questions. After all, no matter how “hard” it might be, if I have sufficient clarity on WHY to do it, the “HOW” becomes easy.

This would be ninety days of doing all in my power to give nothing but love and support, to make Tananarive’s needs more important than my own. The trick is that I’m not capable of doing that…for her.

I know myself enough to know I HAVE to anchor this in my own being. So a few thoughts on how it helps ME.

1) It is very hard FOR A HEALTHY PERSON not to respond with love to anyone who gives it without asking anything in return. So I can expect a flood of love in return.
2) To do this, I’ have to make deeper contact with the part of me that DOES love for love’s sake. For this part to feel safe opening, I have to have all my self-protection at the level of “unconscious competence.” And more deeply than I ever have.
3) That means that I’m practicing how to love and care for MYSELF more, simply by taking my attention OFF myself and onto a trusted heart.
4) If I were “testing” my relationship with her, uncertain, it would STILL be good for me, because the worst case scenario is that I learned that my partner could not give. But I can, and trust me, there are plenty of people looking for such a person — IF THEY LOVE THEMSELVES, AND ARE HANDLING THEIR OWN SECURITY. They can’t be denying the work they need to do and expect someone else to be their spiritual strength or nurturance. My instincts, emotions, and intuition will be aligned at a far higher level…