Blessing Dance: Third Level Love

Lets look at the first two steps of the Blessing Dance, the daily re-commitment to love in a couple. If you can understand this, and can then see how the “Morning Ritual” of an individual relates to the Blessing Dance for a couple. The “Morning Ritual” is like a marriage to your own heart and spirit. Once that cup is full, you have something to offer another healthy human being.

I wanted to throw out a model I heard recently, partially just to clarify it in my own mind.

1. “First Level Relationship” would be each person there for what they can get for themselves.
2. “Second Level Relationship” is transactional: I’ll do for you if you do for me.
3. “Third Level Relationship” is just giving, with NO concern for getting in return.

This sounds right to me, but the next question is: how do you SAFELY get to “Third Level”? Open yourself like that with the wrong person, and you can literally give yourself away to a predator, sociopath or gaslighter. A taker. So you have to set it up so that your actions reflect your first priority: SURVIVAL. That means that you have to gain the wisdom to FIRST take care of yourself (first level), then be able to negotiate healthy relationships (second level) and finally with that wisdom, attract, create, and hold a “Third Level” relationship where each person does their job, but also gives to the other purely for the joy of it…and never regret that because you have found and nurtured a partner who does the same thing.