Breaking The Chain of Co-Dependence

Saw a post today from someone who almost died from congestive heart failure and believes they can die from excess stress. They then went on to detail the people causing massive life stress, hammering them, and I can only pray that they take this to heart.

1. The first principle is to love yourself, and that means caring enough to take care of yourself BEFORE you take care of anyone else. In case of loss of cabin pressure, put your mask on FIRST. If you can’t swim, don’t jump into the water to save strangers of ANYONE you aren’t willing to die with.
2. If you are stressed out, the chances are that you know what you need to do, but just aren’t doing it. The ugliest thing about stress is that it makes you select for what is IMPERATIVE rather than what is IMPORTANT. This must end, or you will chew yourself into pieces.

If you love yourself, you will both want to do the best you can, NOT put other people’s needs above your own, and forgive yourself for failing to stay on a program just as you forgive a baby for falling rather than walking.

Start with sixty seconds of belly breathing, five times a day. There is NO rational reason not to do this. EVERY reason you come up with for not doing it is just an excuse, especially if you have the social media time to read these words. Musashi’s first principle: DO NOT THINK DISHONESTLY. If you start with love, you will be able to look at this without buckling into an “I’m not worthy” fetal position.