Dig. Or Split.

If the issues in my life have been solved by others with a change of behavior, I’m going to assume I can do the same. I may not know what to do: that is ignorance, and ignorance can be cured.

Or, I may not be able to get myself to do what I know I should do. I may have conflicting values, negative beliefs, emotional anchors, phobic responses, or other things. But aside from our most basic hardwired programming, the rest of this was programmed after birth, usually prior to puberty. It is HARD to change these things, just as it can be hard to bread down an iron door. But you know what? With the right key, or combination, that door opens right up. Finding that key or combination is, again, a matter of overcoming ignorance.

OR, I may have a social context that literally will shun me or damage me if I change too much too fast. In that case, I have to feel SAFE to change.

Ignorance can be overcome by the “M” in the M.A.G.I.C. formula: find others who have accomplished your goals, starting as close to where you are as you can find. Model their beliefs, emotions, and actions. The feeling of SAFETY comes from 100% commitment to protect the child within you. Eliminate any sense that your parents, spouse, or even society is more capable of this than you. Once you hit the point where you would rather die than be inauthentic, you’ve got it. You are safe. They can tear your flesh, but cannot hurt YOU.

Those who don’t feel safe, or fear to admit that they are ignorant, will often take the position that change is…