Driving Is For Adults

Repeating this, because I vary a bit, and think it important to constantly re-assess the most important elements of the human equation. My son Jason wants to drive. To drive, he will have to be an aware adult, otherwise he’s a big kid in a 1.5 ton murder machine.

What is an adult in this sense? Someone who takes responsibility for his emotions, words and actions. I’d hope anyone seeking a driver’s license would accept this standard, even if they cannot always rise to it. So what he needs to learn, acquire, integrate into his being or whatever is the “gap” between where he is now, and this “adult” standard.

Can we agree that you don’t want to be in a car with someone who won’t take responsibility for their emotions and actions? Good.

So…what is necessary to do this? If the basics of the WARRIOR’S JOURNEY touch on this, it is because in a very real way I wanted to creates something that would take Jason the rest of his way to adulthood even if I wasn’t around to reinforce it. So how do the elements relate to control of emotions and actions?

1. Three Gates. Learning to control your language demands control of focus. You have to REMEMBER that your standard is honesty, kindness, and effectiveness. You have to admit that you care. Do that, and you’ll begin to notice when you’ve been dishonest or unkind AFTER the fact, and apologize. Keep this up, and you’ll start noticing it WHILE you are making the error, and can correct yourself. Continue down this road, and eventually you’ll start to notice you’re…