Fear and Love

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How does FEAR impact relationships? Well…when I was alone, desperately lonely and ego-shattered due to the death of my first marriage, I was depressed. But non-clinical depression can be described as a state reached when you are in danger, and there is “no one to fight, and no where to run.” Give me something to fight, and that depression would turn to anger, and I could ACT.

So what was it? Fear. FEAR was at the base of it.

Fear of being alone

Fear that I was broken and ugly

Fear that there was no one I could trust

Fear that I would never be happy again

The truth is that it is easy to find support for misery: Incels and Insings abound. These are men and women who are “involuntarily celibate” or “involuntarily single” and blame the world for not giving them what they want.

The problem is that they never take responsibility for their actions and results. They want the people they desire to overlook their flaws and just fall into their arms.

That lack of responsibility was a MAJOR stumbling block, as I realized I was sliding into self-pity. Worse, I KNEW this was a losing position. In my writing career, there had been massive disadvantages working against me, but I took responsibility, and made my strategy accordingly…

In martial arts, I had no natural athletic ability or aggressive potential. I was a…