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FIREDANCE: The “Love Diet”
Looking at the 90-Day “Love Diet” notion, taking it seriously, and still feeling some nervousness. There are, always, potential downsides for actions. The trick it to be sure you believe there are greater “upsides.”
So…what benefits do I see? And those benefits have to be totally separate from any direct response from Tananarive. This can’t be “transactional.” The notion is that there are three levels of relationships:
- You are out for what you can get.
- You will give if you are given to.
- You give without keeping track.
Q: What if the partner doesn’t respond?
A: Then you have learned something critical about them, and can probably plan your exit.
Q: What personal benefits will I gain?
A: Learning to open your heart fully, even in a limited context, has a cascade of positive benefits.
Q: Doesn’t this make you vulnerable to predators?
A: This is a valid concern. The answer is to FIRST engage your survival drive. If you KNOW, 100%, that no matter how they react you will not just survive but THRIVE.
This last one is a biggie. Clearly, any nervousness I have is FEAR. Fear will relate to damage and loss. The most powerful are survival, sex/reproduction, and social group issues.
What am I afraid of losing? Whatever it is, this is evidence of my own damage, and my lack of responsibility for my emotions, actions…