First Week Of School

First week of school — Jason is getting HIMSELF up, at meetings on time, and doing his homework at school. Wants to work with me, and study psychology at UCLA. We’re going to clear out the garage and build him a gym: weight bench, heavy bag, speed bag.

He has been 100% polite. We hug every morning. He loves the notion that he is The Nerd From Hell.

Be still, my beating heart.

He is acting just like a young man who wants to really embrace the world. What is the definition? A man is the male version of an adult. What is “male” and “female”? Well, different people will have different answers. Mine have worked fine:

An “Adult” is someone who takes emotional, financial and physical responsibility for themselves. This is, of course, why it is so painful for people to have to stop driving, or depend on others for survival. Loss of autonomy.

But “Male”? I will suggest he follow my pattern: seek to be respected by the men you respect, and desired by the women you desire. He may well choose another path or set of definitions, but his father has given him a clear Map and Model of a path that has worked beyond his dreams.

Then he has to take his daily Actions

He has to control and align his Emotions

He has to clarify his Goals (Intentions)

And he needs to believe that he CAN and SHOULD take these steps.