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How Can You Find Lasting Love?

Steven Barnes
4 min readNov 14, 2022

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Twenty-Five years ago my first marriage imploded. I was a thousand miles from any friends, alone, desperate and confused. For the first time in my life, I understood why and how someone could want to end their existence. I wasn’t AT that Niagra, but I could hear the rapids roar.

Desperate, out of options, I begged the universe for an answer, before it was too late.

And out of that pain came the greatest joy of my life…and THE SOULMATE PROCESS

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My entire coaching career started with “Lifewriting,” the observation that stories follow a syntax that mirrors life itself:

Someone wants something and something stands in their way

They take action, learn things, find mentors

They face challenges, some of which will empty them out

They fight through fear and discomfort to the next level

They teach others what they learn

This process is the “full circle” of the classic myths, and most stories are degrees of arc, or this circle corkscrewed into fun patterns that defy expectation.

All your resources, philosophies or allies can be viewed in the order they are needed or optimal. And this pattern can be applied to anything: body, mind, spirit…

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Steven Barnes
Steven Barnes

Written by Steven Barnes

Steven Barnes is a NY Times bestselling author, ecstatic husband and father, and holder of black belts in three martial arts. www.lifewritingpodcast.com.

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