I heard a story recently that I found heartening. It involves a “house husband” situation. Basically, the wife is a high-power high earner, whose husband was staying home with the kids. She expressed concern, wasn’t happy with what she saw as his lack of ambition. He replied that she made enough money to support the family and seemed to enjoy her work. That he took pleasure in caring for the kids, getting them off to school, and caring for her when she came home.

And…apparently, they are still together, and at this moment I have no reason to believe that they are other than happy and healthily connected. I hope so.

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1. Love yourself
2. Love one other person
3. Understand history without guilt, blame, or shame
4. Avoid trolls, nurture your tribe
5. Win with integrity

Those are rules for navigating the waters of social change with joy and power. Specifically for Social Justice Warriors, people committed to positive change in the world. Needless to say, it is possible to commit to change and still be a bad person doing bad things. This is a set of guide rails. (BTW — those who use “SJW” as a pejorative are simply afraid of the direction of change…unless they provide valid, alternative behaviors to accomplish the same things, and demonstrate them in their own words and actions. Otherwise, they fit into the category of “trolls.”)

So…understanding that others will have different takes on things, I’ll comment on what I see in this arena.