I’ve Failed At EVERYTHING!
Map or Model day. In all three arenas, unless you are that rare beast who spontaneously zen’s their way through a happy, productive life, you need a specific map of how to accomplish your goals. If my son asks me what the limits of accomplishment might be, I’d say that if ANYONE has ever accomplished that goal starting from where he is, he can do it too. And what if there is no one? Well, if you can separate out the component elements, and model people who have accomplished THOSE, its worth a shot.
With me, there was no model for a black SF writer that I could find. Then I finally…