Remember What Batman’s Butler said…

The problem of being a “good ally” isn’t terribly different from the problem of being a good human being. You are going to wade into a conflicting morass of priorities and perspectives, and not everyone plays fair. Maintaining emotional balance when being accused of participating in or benefitting from some social ill can be hard.

I saw the following comment:

“It’s difficult to not get angry when anger is aimed at you, especially if you aren’t personally guilty.

The thing is you have to recognize however personal it may feel the source isn’t you personally, but what you represent. Some people aren’t going to be fair, some are dealing with their own anger and resentment, and usually you can get past that on a personal basis.

The worst thing is a knee jerk dismissal based on your own personal demons. Usually patience and recognition will work.”

My response: You’ll get angry if you are afraid. If a baby is angry at you, it doesn’t cause anger. That said, sometimes fear is a perfectly reasonable response…but ALWAYS ask yourself what you are afraid of, if you want to regain control.

So…no fear, no anger. How can you break the cycle?

1. Love yourself. Practice self-care. This means staying in a balanced emotional state, even under stress. So the first thing is to notice that you are angry. And then ask “why am I afraid?” If you didn’t care about this person’s opinion, or you were dead certain they were…