Soulmate Conclusion: Living a Life of Love

So today we’ll finish up the basic structure of the Soulmate Process. It was created out of absolute despair when I had a shot at a woman I’d dreamed about, and totally BLEW it. Couldn’t figure out what I’d done wrong: I’d been sweet, and attentive, and honest, and sensitive…everything I thought I was supposed to be. And…she dumped me.

There followed a period of serious self-examination, and I concluded that I simply didn’t understand relationships, even though I’d been married for years. And one year at Norwescon, I decided to simply sit and observe couples coming in from the airport, without judgement or expectation.

The precise results of that day’s observation are for another time, but the broad stroke is that I saw a balance, a unity. There was a “whole” that couples made. They fit, or balanced, in a way that made sense, but didn’t exactly match any of the patterns commonly presented. But the simplest explanation that is useful is: seek your equal. And if your heart yearns for something that is beyond your current level, either raise your level, or drop your expectations.

NEVER expect the world to give you more than you offer in return, and if you reject others, you’d better believe others have the right to reject YOU. Hell, even if you DON’T reject others, others still have that right. Everyone makes the best deals in life that they can, or they are oblivious to reality. So here is a pretty decent version of the entire pattern:

1. Admit that you want a life…