The Answer For Incels Is Self-Love

I still remember the first time a particular truth really hit me hard. I was teaching Tai Chi at a Texas convention, and there was a very sweet woman there who was morbidly obese. I’d say she carried at least 200 extra pounds. I picked up vibes from her, but it is none of my business, so I didn’t speculate. I don’t go deep, intuitively, without permission. But in these classes I always speak of body-mind dynamics and being a healthy animal. After the class, she asked if she could speak to me, and we did talk. And once that door opened…it became very difficult for me.

You see, our lives are built by our repeated actions. Our repeated actions are the result of our beliefs and values. If the path of “adulting” is the normal, typical human path then all you have to do is note where people diverge from it, and you are seeing evidence of a problem, an issue. SOMETHING WENT WRONG at that point. And all you have to do is correct such errors in your own life, heal such wounds, and you become sensitized to them in other people.

Talk to someone who thinks homeless people are “just lazy” or fat people the same, or poor people “want to be poor” or people caught in whirlpools of social violence somehow “deserve” this?

These are ignorant people, people with warped views of human psychology. Look for their own wounds. You’ll usually find them in the body, the relationships, or the career. Big ones. Papered over with lies and rationalizations. If they don’t understand others, they don’t understand themselves, not…