The Hero’s Journey and Parenting (part 1)

Trying to organize thoughts on parenting. In some ways, it is identical to the pattern for becoming an aware, awake, adult human being, in that from my paradigm:

1. Only adults should have sex.
2. Adulthood can be described as those who have passed the point of conation, taking responsibility for their emotions, actions, safety and “room and board”
3. When an adult is present in the life of a child, giving them love and support, the child will automatically model them. The teenager will automatically reject, and the young adult will circle back around and make choices of “take what is useful and discard the rest”
4. So the most important responsibility of a parent is to be healthy and be there.
5. Implication: you need to model all three arenas: healthy emotions (a healthy loving relationship), healthy career, healthy body.

The “Soulmate Process” obviously hooks into this. The most consistent reality in people who complain about parenting is that their reproductive partners are no better than they are. Needless to say, this isn’t the way it is phrased. The notion of being a healthy human being, and choosing other healthy human beings to reproduce with is anathema to the insecure and immature…and those who have never experienced or modeled a healthy bond.

So if the job of parenting is to replace yourself, then you need to prepare a child to:

1. Support themselves as an adult (Mind)