The Soulmate Process #5–8: The Kobayashi Maru of Love

So…yesterday we got through the first four steps of the “Soulmate Process”. This is a way to CONSCIOUSLY create what lucky people just seem to stumble into: real, deep, lasting, passionate love.

Basically, you have to admit you want a partner, believe you are worthy of one, make a list of everything you want (all three major “Centers” must be covered: Body, Heart, Mind) and find 1–3 people who come the closest to what you have on your list, and ask THEM what they are looking for.

And that leads us to Step Five.

Before I state it directly, allow me to back up and discuss a couple of the steps that lead to this process.

Twenty-five years ago, my first marriage went the way of the Do Do. Due to errors we’d made early in the relationship, it became impossible to hold things together, and let’s just say the timing was exquisitely bad. Or good, depending on how you want to look at it, but that’s another discussion.

Let’s just say that I was hundreds of miles from any friends or support network (Vancouver, Washington), flirting with severe depression, with limited financial options and walking through life in a state of shock. I just didn’t know where I was on my reality map. For the first time in my adult life…maybe the first time since childhood, I DIDN’T KNOW WHO I WAS, or what I was supposed to do.

As I’ve said before, all I had in the world was a bed, a television set, my dog, and a gun. Not a…