The Soulmate Process #5–8: The Kobayashi Maru of Love

Steven Barnes
9 min readFeb 15, 2021

So…yesterday we got through the first four steps of the “Soulmate Process”. This is a way to CONSCIOUSLY create what lucky people just seem to stumble into: real, deep, lasting, passionate love.

Basically, you have to admit you want a partner, believe you are worthy of one, make a list of everything you want (all three major “Centers” must be covered: Body, Heart, Mind) and find 1–3 people who come the closest to what you have on your list, and ask THEM what they are looking for.

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Steven Barnes

Steven Barnes is a NY Times bestselling author, ecstatic husband and father, and holder of black belts in three martial arts. www.lifewritingpodcast.com.