To Hell With Luck

Everyone seems to have a story about discovering years later that some attractive person was actually attracted to you. There was an OPPORTUNITY there that you could not see for lack of confidence or capacity to read signals.

That’s love. If you can wrap your mind around that, you will probably also remember a time you DID figure it out in time, and formed a love bond. “Luck”? Or capacity to FINALLY see what was going on?

If you can admit that yes, you finally figured out how to interpret someone’s shy glance or body language, you can use that realization. What opportunities in life were RIGHT THERE, but you couldn’t see them? They actually had to smack you upside the head to get your attention?

Man oh man, is that ever the secret in life: the opportunities are there. Study people who started with your resources and over-performed and you’ll see that they not only learned to recognize opportunities but learned to take constant ACTION that matched their pace, their energetics, to the pace of those who move in those circles.

Sure, there was “luck” in finding Steve Muhammad, but I had to do the work to recognize quality when I saw it, to be a discriminating consumer…but also to go to Martial Arts Expos to be exposed to enough people to see his shocking excellence.

Sure, I was “lucky” to find Tananarive…but we BOTH did massive work on ourselves emotionally before we ever met, so that we could be open and ready for something real. And we ALSO had to have put in the work to be…