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When To Know You Need Help
There is the sort of person who will stand on the railroad track with the train bearing down on them, and say “I’m not gonna move if you talk mean to me.” When they are standing there alone, it is bad enough. If they are holding a baby, it is far worse. If it is YOUR baby they are holding…you really really want to figure what is going on, and how to communicate with them in a way they can understand. There is too much at stake to just throw up your hands and say “idiot.”
Self-destructive behavior and “laziness” are part of the same patterns, and I suggest that there is much to be learned about each by looking at the other. There was an article I posted recently about how laziness doesn’t exist. That “when it comes to behavioral “laziness”, I’m especially moved to ask: what are the barriers to action that I can’t see?”
One reader was kind enough to share his own journey: “I can’t see how to get myself to take that first step. “When you’re paralyzed with fear of failure, or you don’t even know how to begin a massive, complicated undertaking, it’s damn hard to get shit done.”
“I know that there is value in exercise; I’ve felt (and enjoyed!) endorphins from a good pump lifting weights at the gym; I KNOW how easy it is to lose strength by *not* lifting…